Holding Space During the Holidays

Wow!

I can't believe we're almost to Christmas. It's been a roller coaster year for me, and I bet most of us out here in the mindset world. 

I just started this new venture back in November because I know I want to help people like YOU reframe your mindset and give yourself permission to be amazing. I should say give yourself the mental and emotional tools to be amazing!

Today I want to talk about holding space during the holiday season. What do I mean by that? Simply put, holding space means being mentally and emotionally aware of the energy around you and looking at yourself with non-judgement. It's creating a safe space where you can be you and not feel like you're having to deal with judgement. 

During the holidays, many of us get together with family and maybe even friends. While this can be a wonderful time for a lot of us, others step into a land of judgement and negative energy. Maybe it's the family member who doesn't understand your sexuality, or a friend who is always judging how you wear your hair. It could be someone close to you doesn't like your partner for some reason and may say things that seem "nice" but are in fact just the opposite.

As we come up to the rest of the holiday season, I want you to remember to hold emotional and energetic space for yourself. When someone says something negative to you, or about you, take a moment to breathe and then see if you can remove yourself from the situation. Reflect on what was said to you but I want you to try and view it through the lens of "this was their opinion and it doesn't matter to me." 

That is going to be easier said than done, I know. The trick is to remember that this idea of holding space for yourself is also about guarding your mental health AND your mindset during this time of year. 

You can also hold space for others. Here are a few ways you can do that:

Be Present with the person

Be Compassionate

Offer Unconditional Support (but also make sure you take care of you)

Allow the person to feel their feelings (again do not allow yourself to get overwhelmed by their feelings. Just be there)

So, that is all I have for you this week. I want to challenge you as we get to Christmas and New Years to make time to hold space for yourself. If you journal (and I hope you do), write down one way you decided to practice this idea during the holidays and how it felt to do it.

Until next week remember, your mindset matters and so do you!